Kate Morton, The Distant Hours
When we’re not careful about how we perceive social media, we create stories in our minds around circumstantial things and make sweeping generalizations about our lives and the lives of people around us. How does she manage to look so perfect while at the amusement park with her 7 kids under the age of 7? I would be so sweaty and gross. I bet she never sweats. That couple looks so happy — they must never fight. She posts beautiful family meals every. single. day. My kids had chicken nuggets for two nights in a row. I’m a terrible mother. A messy, terrible mother.
You see how we do this to ourselves? This is an a-ha moment for me. It’s starting to make sense now why it’s so important to me to look good. Aside from being a girly girl and loving pretty things, I connect how I look with how I’m living my life. It’s my message to the world. So if I look a hot mess, then I feel like I’m telling the world that I am a hot mess and that’s not really the message I want to convey.
But if I’m being honest, then I have to tell you that yeah, sometimes I am a hot mess. Owning that fact makes me feel free and fortunately, feeling free is more important to me than feeling pretty and perfect and… not sweaty.
So when I start to think mean thoughts to myself about my appearance, I can remember this: “A beautiful thing is never perfect.”
- GG Renee